Responding to Bullying
Responding to Bullying
Although there are many definitions of the term “bullying,” most agree that bullying includes the following components: an imbalance of power in which the bully uses power to control or harm their target, the actions are done intentionally, and incidents are repetitive. Bullying can occur verbally, socially, physically, and also using electronic communication.
Because targets of bullying can experience depression, low self-esteem, health problems, poor grades, and suicidal thoughts, it is important to provide support to individuals who are targeted by bullies. If your child is the target of bullying, here are some strategies you can advise your child to take in order to cope with the situation:
• Avoid the bully when possible
• Use the buddy system and avoid being alone since bullies are more likely to cause harm when no one else is nearby
• Do not let the bully see that you are upset. Bullies want to see their target react; letting the bully see you react is likely to reinforce the behavior.
• Firmly tell the bully to stop, then walk away
• Talk to adults at school such as counselors, teachers, or other school staff because they can help you deal with the bullying situation.
Your school counselor is a resource that can help you and your child deal with bullying in a positive and proactive way. Contact your child’s school counselor for more information. LFCS also offers counseling to children and families who are dealing with the effects of bullying. To make an appointment with an LFCS counselor call (314) 787-5100 and ask for the Intake Department.